During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, 'How do I know if I married the right person?'
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?'
In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse/partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their
idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit).

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to
DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept off my feet.' Think about the imagery of that __expression.
It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened
TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's
idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will
notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the
euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,
a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.
You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVERjust happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression 'the labor of love.'
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship
WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make'
love.

Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.

Remember this always:

'God determines who walks into your life.It is up to you to decidewho you let walk away,who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'















feeling so bored and so tried every night Can't close my eyes and sleep, feel like watching a movie or doing something to make myself more tired and ignore everything. Sigh maybe i eat too much or too long never exercise, so that's why not easy to get tired... not like last time always club on weekend and exercise everyday like back to hell day.

After a week of light duty, my hand still feeling weak, can't even carry a 1/2kg of things or even twist. how long is my hand going to heal? i hate this feeling and hate to be so weakly. now everyday is just eat and sleep. so relax that till i felt lazy on doing anythings. what a meaningless life.


sigh..... why my dream car so expansive.... from 8K plus this plus that become 40k. WTH can buy a new car man..... thought it just less than 25K.... ThankQ Jovi for the info....

Well guess my dream have to wait until got local seller or maybe wait until i strike lottery. but that is 10% of luck will happen in this world. if so easy dun need to work lor. ^O^

damn angrie.... just a simple question + simple answer = fucking answer....
just asking ( if ) its so fucking hard for someone to answer... why must talk one big round and still dunwanna answer the question. just telling me can or not well do.. talk so much for WHAT... i also know its imposable cant happen, i just wanna hear your advice whether izzit worth it or not. so simple why must you make it so difficult. who knows maybe can le. just say can or not can already..... fucking piss off fucking hell that make my life feel like i always wrong, like a guy born with fucking attitude.

fucking hate my life........